Making God Laugh

There I go again.

In the last six months or so I’ve made a lot of plans.  I decided to go back to school, I decided to sell my house,  I decided not to go back to school (yet) and now I think I’ve decided not to sell my house.  BUT I may have decided to go back to school after all.

For those interested here’s the progression.  I have all these little boys whom I ‘m going to have to feed as teenagers so I decided to go back to school so I could afford to do that but when I actually looked at the scheduling it became clear that there was no time that I could actually attend class (something that’s encouraged in those going to school) until the irish twins were both in preschool at least. Then we had an incident with some of the neighbor kids so we thought that we should try to get out of the hood, maybe stop exposing our kids to some of the influences that are part and parcel of where we live (it occurs to me now that I promised you more “the things that happen in my neighborhood” stories, maybe later).  So this week I’ve been talking to a Realtor and it turns out that the chances of selling our house without taking a loss are bad, really bad, and, honestly, I’ve just gotten our finances to a place that doesn’t give me ulcers. We can’t afford to take a loss.  So moving’s out.  The new plan there is to continue with the FHE and the scriptures and prayers (something that we’re actually really  really good about solely because it’s the only real protection from the neighborhood and the world that I can give them) and maybe step it up a little.  I’d also like to get them interested in something.  Some kind of sport, dance, gymnastics, horseback riding, something.  Something that will give them something to do aside from hanging out with the neighbor kids.

Also, lately I’ve applied for a different job.  Actually, it’s kind of the same job but the hours would be really different, freeing up most of my days, so maybe the school thing could work out after all.  I don’t know about the job, my boss was maybe going to decide today so I may know soon.  (Not that not knowing is going to stop my making plans, I’m still me.)

Overall, I’m actually pretty happy with the way things have worked out so far, I don’t love my neighborhood but I do love my house.  I love my new kitchen, and I think the rest of the house has so dang much potential that I was really sad at the thought of leaving and now I don’t have to think about it.  I would love some ideas from you all about how to make our living here a positive thing for my kids, seriously, how do I keep them away from the things that they will inevitably be introduced to living here (yes, I know that kids can find that stuff anywhere, but we’ve already had to put certain houses in the neighborhood off limits because the “adults” in the house were smoking pot in the house with their kids, and my kids there).  Maybe this is my chance to be a good influence to the neighborhood.  But how?

As to the going back to school, Im not going to put my eggs in that basket until I hear about the job and then we’ll see from there, if I don’t do school maybe I’ll start writing again.  Who knows, anything could happen, and no doubt, lots of things will.  And lots of plans will be made, and most, if not all, will be discarded.  But what the heck, if I can’t be good at least I can be entertaining!

7 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Kristina
    Jun 25, 2009 @ 17:05:01

    I’m glad you are at peace with things.

  2. Melanie J
    Jun 25, 2009 @ 18:49:44

    You’re doing exactly what you should do and everything you CAN do to counteract the influence of the neighborhood. Those kinds of problems are less obvious in other places, but they’re still there.

    I hope everything works out for you. Sounds like you have the most important thing you’ll need: flexibility!

  3. marivic
    Jun 25, 2009 @ 23:34:00

    i have been gone from blogland and haven’t been here for awhile. sounds like you’ve been busy. i think you’re on the right track about keeping your kids busy with extra curricular activities to keep them away from the ‘hood. my neighborhood is okay but regardless my kids hardly have anytime to hang out with anyone on our street. they’re either in school, at church, away at activities, lessons, or at friends’ homes that are away from the neighborhood, etc. so your plan is very do-able.

  4. Jami
    Jun 28, 2009 @ 20:02:57

    I’ll ponder that and try to get back to you. We have similar neighborhood issues.

  5. Janelle
    Jun 29, 2009 @ 13:36:22

    Sounds like you’ve got things really well thought out. I like that you didn’t freak out and force the house thing when it didn’t make sense. That could have added a lot of stress to your life.

    For the neighborhood thing, the analogy of a boat that doesn’t let the water in will never sink comes to mind. You can keep your kids safe, and will be a blessing to those around you for doing it as well.

  6. Kate
    Jul 09, 2009 @ 13:35:37

    I think you’re on the right track too. We sold our Northern VA house at a loss and are still financially digging out from that. I mean it’s much better and it’s helped to move to a much lower cost of living area, but we still have debt we really need to get out from under.

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